This past weekend I attended the first MTY Retreat in Cancun, Mexico. If you follow me on Instagram, you’ve seen plenty of posts sharing sneak peeks about the weekend. However, I know those snippets cannot fully explain the magic that I was able to experience.
Myleik went all out. As a long time follower, I already know that everything she touches exudes excellence because she holds herself and her brand to high standards. But experiencing this retreat was so much less about having a sneak peek into what excellence feels like, and more about learning what limitless living is all about. I left this retreat eager to hold myself to a new standard!
I quickly learned that I’ve placed limits on what I like, what I do, what I can experience, and even what I allow myself to think/imagine. Limits are self-created barriers that I’ve placed on my own life to “protect” myself from experiencing pain, success, and disappointment. And yes, success is in there too because while success feels amazing (in most cases), it can be scary and easier to stay-put rather than striving to break glass ceilings and level up.
I’m all about having tangible action items, so I’ve create the 4 Ways to Embrace Limitless Living in 2018 for myself and wanted to share with you!
Write down what you really want.
During the “Special Interview with Myleik and Luvvie Ajayi”, Luvvie shared that instead of creating a vision board in the beginning of the year, she writes down what she wants her exact life to be like on December 31st of the following year. Through the years, she’s been able to achieve most of the things she’s written down AND more.
At the retreat, I woke up one morning and wrote out my own vision for 2018 in my Limitless Living journal. I’m a little type A, so I broke my vision down into categories: work, play, relationships, and health. I got SUPER specific about exactly what I want. Here’s an example:
I’m well on my way to becoming an internationally known career + leadership expert. I’ve worked hard to provide myself with a “seat at the table”. Hiring a publicist was one of the BEST decisions that I’ve ever made too. I’ve been featured on multiple tv outlets and LOVE my recent morning show gig appearances. AND I was featured in a print copy of Essence magazine.
ACTION ITEM: Write out your 2018 vision in a journal.
Treat yourself how you dream of being treated
No moment to impress was spared on this retreat. Period. At the Nizuc Resort, we didn’t even have to walk from building to building – there was cart service. Even if you attempted to walk, a cart would pull over and ask if you needed assistance.
Karleen Roy, the event designer, and Myleik used every opportunity to show us that each moment of the retreat was perfectly curated for us. For example, on Saturday evening at the Boudoir Bash we all came dressed in our sexiest pajamas and received custom friendship bracelets with our names pre-printed, Limitless Living socks and eye masks. The room had all of the classic slumber party games, multiple food stations, comfy couches, custom drinks, and a piñata. This was just ONE of the many experiences we had at the retreat… I won’t even want to start explaining the ambiance at the fireside chat!
This really made me question how much time I take to create experiences for myself in my everyday life. While I may not be able to “go all out” everyday, I can definitely take more time an attention to curate experiences for myself. As I’m planning my 2018 travel experiences, I’ll be looking into making sure I pre-organize my travel to and from the airport, and seek out hotels that provide that “extra touch” of class, like turndown service and a soaking tub.
Everyday, I also plan on getting up with enough time to make a cup of tea and read a few pages in a book. Making the time to slow down is something I need to work on. I was so intentional on this trip so I know I can make some tweaks to bring this feeling home with me too.
ACTION ITEM: Think of 1 thing you can start doing today that makes you feel more luxurious, confident, bold, and/or in charge.
Dress for the occasion
Before leaving for the retreat, Myleik shared an outline of the types of outfits that would be needed for the weekend. She kept the actual details a surprise, but she knew that bringing 96+ amazing women meant we would want/need some details to ensure we looked our absolute best. The night before I left for Mexico, I created a note in my phone with all of the events, and created outfits/looks to pack.
In Mexico, I took the time to put on a robe coming out of the shower, applied dry oil to my skin, and laid out my clothes for the day… all things that I NEVER take the time to do. This saved SO much time each day AND I felt confident every single time that I walked into a room. During the masterclasses on Saturday, both Karleen and Kahlana stressed the importance of looking good even when you don’t necessarily feel good. It helps you feel more confident and prepared even on some of the toughest days.
Now, I’ve never claimed to be a fashionista, but I can’t deny how I felt on the retreat. I even wore lipstick! (and may have also ordered Bawse Lady from Lip Bar while I was there too….) Since the retreat, I’m vowing to take a little more time to dress in a way that makes me feel good. This doesn’t mean that I’m going to go out and purchase some red bottoms – but it does mean that I’m going to work on intentionally dressing for the occasion – no matter what that occasion is.
ACTION ITEM: Plan out your outfits for the next week and see how that makes you feel.
Build a community of heavy hitters #squadgoals
The retreat was filled with heavy hitters, ya’ll. Myleik shared on instastories that she received over 1,500 applications and carefully selected about 100 women. Every single woman had something to offer at this retreat. It was such a powerful experience to be surrounded by like-minded women who want to KILL IT in their lives and careers.
What was even more powerful, was having deeper conversations about acceptance, fears, vulnerability and realizing that we all struggle with the same exact things. I’ve been working hard to build a stronger community of like-minded women to surround myself with since 2016, but now I’m even MORE passionate about it. I’m also excited to focus on connecting with women who have emerging brands like my own so we can lift each other up as we all work hard to achieve our own goals. So many times, we look to the “super successful people” like Myleik, Necole Kane, Karleen Roy, Zim Ugochukwu, Kahlana Barfield-Brown, Jennifer Ekeleme, and Luvvie Ajayi to connect with. BUT there is a power in finding others who are exactly where you are too.
I had a conversation with Denequa Williams from Lit Brooklyn about creating a group of millennial women who are striving to be the next generation of leaders. We need to band together and help each other reach our goals. Building our own communities of heavy hitters who we can reach out to on a regular basis is essential. My mother always said, “No man is an island”. We need community.
As an aside – I also want to share that ALL of the speakers mixed and mingled with the attendees. Sometimes you attend retreats and the speakers are off in a VIP lounge not engaging with anyone. This was not the case here – it was great to have one on one conversations with some of these ladies throughout my time in Mexico. I even chatted with Kahlana about my upcoming microbladding appointment for my eyebrows. She shared that “yes” – it will hurt a lot, but it was one of the best things she ever did!
ACTION ITEM: Make a list of 3-5 like-minded people who you can reach out to and schedule a time to connect with them on a regular basis.
Overall, the retreat was a life-changing experience and I know this blog post cannot even begin to explain the transformational experience. I left feeling reinvigorated, committed to excellence, and determined to level up in 2018.
To learn more about the 2019 MTY Retreat, go to mtyretreat.com.