Have you heard Gabrielle Union’s acceptance speech at the 6th Annual ESSENCE Black Women In Hollywood Awards? Talk about fearless. I have always had a love for Gabrielle Union; especially after following her on Instagram and seeing how real, comical, and beautiful she was in candid moments. Cause, of course, Instagram is the way to see a peek inside of celebrities’ lives, right?
Link to Video ***please take a second to watch, inspiration guaranteed***
I had heard of this speech, but never thought to look up the actual video until I read this month’s issue of ESSENCE magazine where Gabrielle was on the cover. I was moved by the speech and how relatable it was, but I was even more moved by some of the statements in the magazine about happiness.
She (AJ Johnson, Gabrielle’s long time friend) said, “You’ve been married and divorced and you’re surprised by this. You’re blaming him, when you don’t know what makes you happy. He’s never going to get it right, because you don’t know what the right answer is,” Union recalls. “No one had put it like that to me.”
How can one be happy if you do not know how you define happiness? While my aim for this post was to create my own happy list the way Gabrielle did in the interview, I don’t think I want to just yet. Sure, I could create a platonic list about food, love, and relationships… but I want to challenge myself to be more specific. I guess I am giving myself some mindfulness homework.
In my opinion, the happiness list can be general or specific. You could have a happy list for what you need in a relationship in order to be happy, or a separate list for what you need in a work environment to feel fulfilled. No matter what the list is for, it can help provide direction, goals, and inspiration to do things that create more happiness. Like AJ Johnson told Gabrielle, if you know what makes you happy, you can tell others about it AND even live in a way to create more happiness.
Do you have a happy list?
Or have you ever thought of making one?